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Stay true to yourself

I know this is a blog that is based around fitness but today I’m going to address a slightly different subject. Over the last three or four days I have experienced some doubt about myself. It’s been one of those times in life when you wonder if the plan that you were so sure was right for you may be wrong. Before you start sending me emails of concern, I’m ok and I’m figuring this stuff out, I’m not writing this as a cry for help. I’m a lucky man who has lots of loving people who I can go to at times like these. But over the last couple days I’ve found that due to my self doubt I’ve had some destructive thoughts around what I’m doing with my life. It’s like because I’ve been confronted with some hard stuff I’ve forgotten the lessons that got me to the place where I feel happy. I’ll tell you more about this in a minute but before I do I thought I’d tell you why I’m writing this. 

One of my normal conversation starters is ‘are you busy at work?’. I know, I need to think of something better than that. I was thinking I might go with ‘Which superpower, invisible or flying?’  Imagine what I’ll learn about people then. I digress, Over the last couple weeks I have met a lot of new people from lots of different industries and when I ask them if they are busy at work I have consistently been hearing the bleak response of how hard things are. There was the insurance agent who told me how everyone was canceling their polices, the business owner who was ‘getting out’, it even went full circle when a guy who was doing some advertising for RaceTeam told me he was canceling his insurance as he just couldn’t afford it. A lot of people are struggling right now, it’s scary. 

In times when we doubt ourself we can lose sight of the things that really matter, we can no longer trust our judgement and instead try to find ways through the challenging times that go against our true self. At this time, take a moment to breathe, find a way to go back to the things that are important to you. We may need to make adjustments to our plan but it’s at this time that we have to be strong in ‘self’.

As I sat there in my destructive thoughts, which were polarised and on repeat, I stopped myself and took a moment to breathe. Some changes need to be made but not in who I are, I need to move more toward that. 

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Reader Comments (3)

Hey Bevan
Interesting how you look at the topic or allow yourself to look at the topic. You can just see it as a negative influence or look at it as an oppurtunity to sit down and review what you are doing. This is where I want to go ... how can I strengthen what I am doing to get there?
Did you ask these people What they would do differently next time to avoid this situation? What could you learn from them? That could help you.
Isn't this what we do when training for a race/event and we simulate that event in training and review with our coach?
Keep up the good work both here and on IMtalk

August 23, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterBrett

Good post~

Nothing is set in stone.
You never know for sure if the 'Plan' you have for yourself is air tight.
Because you cant know~
...Its not really for you to know.

We should ty to know oursleves - recognise your own strength and weakness, and safe guard yourself in life by having good ppl close to you so at times of non clarity you haven't ( too) much room to budge.
But most importantly also you should trust yourself~
To be imperfect is to be human, regarding times of inner struggle and questioning ourselevs, for it is in this time we grow.
Life, like exercise ,is not meant to be easy.

Polarised destructive thoughts, and on repeat! Welcome to life, my friend! lol

Re: situations of others, difficult times or no~ this comparative, bc depending on where you are, and what is normal in your culture and society, it very difficult to compare.
So, you could adapt a policy of being thankful, for things that you have, yet also in your openess and interest in others- part of the dynamic of your personality, also not be so open that you influenced so easily.
For example the standard of ilfe we have in NZ, w insurance or no, is anothers dream in so many less developed nations.
What is a challenge for some is much easier for others.
You would of already experienced this.

Work is essential in life, its not just your career, everything is work, developing yourself, questioning, learning, growing, changing your fat ratio, lol, relationships so in effect your question is rather valid.
It just that ppl answer in a simplistic way~

Anyway, Cool post.

August 24, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterIstafiah

Hi, Bevan. I'm an international reader. I'm very into fitness and I just came across your blog randomly. Before I start to read all your posts, I thought I should comment on this one to start with. first of all, I think im going to use your conversation starter if that alright with you... the "which superpower" of course. second, most people are going through a rough time especially because of the economic crisis that has been going on for the past couple of years which effected many people and made the standard of living lower but hopefully everything will go back to normal soon, hope and faith is what we got.

I really enjoyed this post as I am sure that I will be enjoying the rest of your posts, never doubt yourself and always be thankful to what you got.

peace and love. M

September 4, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterM

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