Your kids need you

Some readers asked me to write about how to get kids out exercising. I could give suggestions about creating games that empower your children, that are fun and inclusive and help to create a love of exercise but today I want you to have a look at yourself as a parent, grandparent or just someone who spends time with those special kids in your life.

We live in a world that gives us so many reasons to point the finger at and blame for why so many of our kids are overweight and unfit. We blame T.V, Playstations, fast foods and the internet for children’s unhealthiness and while these do have something to do with it we need to take a deeper look at our own actions.

Kids require commitment, they can be hard work and they suck up a lot of energy. Sometimes when we are tired because our own life is busy (and everyone’s life is busy these days) it’s easier for us to just let them jump on the net or play the PS3. We justify this to ourselves as we need our ‘own time’ or we need to get ‘stuff’ done. Is this the level of commitment you want to show to your kids?

We need to be able to identify when we are doing this and make choices that create time for fun with exercise. If you commit to putting time aside to exercise with your kids most days of the week, even when you are tired, you will be showing that exercise is an important part of life. You’ll also be showing them that they are important to you, that the ‘stuff’ you need to do can wait.

My daughter isn’t a ‘Sport Billy’ and at times I’ve had to have a rule where her internet time is based on how much time we spend playing basketball or other outdoor games. While at first she resisted my rules, once we are out there she is running around, giving her old man a hard time and enjoying exercise. This is important in her development and the relationship I have with her.

It saddens me to think that some kids will grow up having no experience with fitness. The implications for the world are huge but more importantly it saddens me that you will miss out on this special time to connect with your kids. Make the commitment, you’ll be glad you did. 


My Self Awareness

A while ago, a guy called Daniel come up to me at the gym and asked me a question that blew my mind away. Daniel is one of those charismatic people who always has a smile on his face and seems to have an instant connection with those he meets. This would explain why he is a top sales rep. “Why is it that you seem to have it all going for you Bev?”. I far from believe that I have it all going for me, I suppose I know me better than anyone else so I know the battles I have and the weaknesses I try to improve on. I definitely don’t sit around thinking I have it all. But his question did get me thinking, I do lead a pretty good life where I get to spend my day doing the things I love with amazing people who seem to always show me their best sides. 

After thinking for a second I responded; “To be honest, I think I’m doing alright because every day I stop and think about the path I’m on and if it’s the right one for me. If I discover that I’m not on that path, I make adjustments to get back in the right direction”.

If I have done one thing well in my time it is to constantly improve my self-awareness. This has been an ongoing process for me which I have evolved and is now part of my daily life.  It’s this awareness that helps me know who I am today and what actions I need to take to keep on the path that is right for me in this one life. When you think about it, most of the big changes in your life come when you either choose to stop and reflect on your life or when a big event makes you stop and think. It’s this awareness that helps you to find your path. 

What are some things that you could add to your life to bring self-awareness into it daily? 

A while ago I read the book ‘The Winners Bible’ and while I did struggle with some aspects of it I did identify with the concept of using a ‘Winners Bible’ as tool to help with self-awareness. I had been doing a similar thing for years so I thought I would create one that was more in line with some of the lessons in this book. I thought that I would share with you guys my version of it. 

Over the next few post I’m going to share my ‘winners bible’, what it means to me and how I use it. 

If you have any comments of questions feel free to post them on there. 


Here's a mind map of my current goals:     


This one is the people who inspire me and in what areas they do this: 


Here's the page for sports and group fitness. The photos represent different focuses for me: 


This one is about personal habits. Things like education, time management, relaxing, healthy lifestyle, honest and so on. 



Don't do it by yourself!

My family is crazy (I’m sure they will love me putting this in here) but they really are. I remember vividly the moment in my life when this was confirmed. I was competing in my second Ironman and had completed the 3.8km swim and I was around the 100km mark in the bike leg. At this stage of the race I found myself in the middle of nowhere and starting to feel a little tired. The long straight roads seemed to be never-ending  and my mind was starting to struggle.

I made a slight turn in the road and off in the distance there was a group of people dressed in wild outfits with bright wigs to match and the noise they were generating was like there were hundreds of them, not the actual five that were there. They seemed to be giving every single athlete the support they needed as they passed by them.

The closer I got to this bunch of misfits the more I realised who they were. Around 500 meters before I got to them another athlete road beside me and said, ‘aren’t these guys great, they’re crazy!’, I turned to him and with pride said ‘yeah, that’s my family’. When I road past them they gave me the greatest boost which made me forgot about the struggle I was having and I’ll of a sudden I was smiling from ear to ear.

While trying to achieve a goal can be a personal journey, we all need some level of support from those around us to do achieve it.  We don’t have to do this by ourselves and you’ll find that you’ll do a much better job if you can recruit a team of great people who understand what you are trying to achieve, how they can help and what you need from them to help you grow.

When you sit down to plan a goal ask yourself who can help you achieve success and how will they do this? By communicating your goal and needs with these people all of a sudden you’ll feel that you have a team of people around you that are lifting you up on their shoulders.

I know I couldn’t have achieved any of my goals in my life if I hadn’t had the amazing support team that is my crazy friends and family.